'This is unforgivable': Fiancé plans to leave his heavily pregnant girlfriend home alone for Christmas to spend the holidays with his real family

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    Posted by u/Prize-Ad3917 1 day ago AITA for asking my fiance to skip this year's Christmas family vacation because our baby is due?
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    Context: I have gone to Florida with his family for the past 5 years for at least part of Christmas. Every other year, I returned before him to spend Christmas day with my family. This year is the first time in a long time that all the other siblings are able to overlap dates. My fiance has major FOMO, which is why this is a sensitive subject. His parents have always been weird about keeping their family close.
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    They've never said it outright but little things suggest they don't consider me completely part of their family yet since we aren't married.
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    Also, my parents are away overseas dealing with a grandparent emergency. My mom has been kept in the loop though and is trying to come back as soon as she can.**
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    My fiance and I (31M and 31F) are expecting our first baby due December 30th. His family has a vacation home in Florida and they have gone every year during the holidays for about a month until after New Year. He agreed not to go this year because of the baby but his
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    family is insisting that he go and come back on the 28th which is "ample time before the baby is due". So he bought a ticket for December 15th-28th. His reasoning is that his parents really want him there and his siblings will also be going.
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    This is bothering me alot more than I thought because I know pregnancies are unpredictable, especially in the last trimester and if anything happens leading up to the due date, I need him there. My parents are away until December 26th and my friends have their families so I will be completely alone. The other reason...and I guess
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    it's more selfish, is that I will be spending Christmas by myself. It's not the main reason why I'm bothered but it's a small part of it. He's been spending Christmas every year in Florida since he was 15 and there will be many more trips after the baby is born. I don't know why he has to go THIS YEAR.
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    Any time I bring it up, it results in a very uncomfortable fight about my expectations to put me first rather than his parents. I don't even bring it up anymore. His parents have always been kind to me but they also don't see any problem so I think I'm going crazy? AITA here?
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    Good Representative33 1 day ago Partassipant [3] NTA- Your husband is a fool if he goes. This is your first baby, you do not know if the baby will be here early, on time or late. His family is you and the baby. If his family can't see that, that another issue. None of them have a crystal ball and know when that baby is coming.
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    Personally, I would also be pointing out how quickly things can go wrong for Mum or bubs during labour. I am actually disgusted with him for thinking this is okay to leave his vulnerable wife during that time... You just don't know whats going to happen. And whats with not wanting to spend Christmas with you? Leaving you completely alone. Not cool. I am furious for you. Where are you? I will come and take care of you. Reply Share 21.6k
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    haleorshine 1 day ago Hate to be all Reddit about this, but this would be a reason for me to dump him immediately. He's going to leave his heavily pregnant partner alone at Christmas because his family really wants him to be at their yearly holiday? He's such an Ah, and a terrible partner and father to boot, for even suggesting this, let alone fighting her on this.
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    haleorshine 1 day ago ● So unforgivable. I don't see how he could possibly be a good partner or father based on the fact that he sees nothing wrong with this and is arguing with her about it.
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    Even if it wasn't for the health risks, op is absolutely not selfish for not wanting to be alone on Christmas, and it's insane she thinks so. I hope she tells her friends, because if I was one of them I would absolutely be making her part of my family Christmas. 4 2.3k 2.3k Reply Share
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    The_Bad_Agent - 1 day ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [36] I was one of them I would absolutely be making her part of my family Christmas. Same, with a potential birthing plan just in case. 1.0k Reply Share
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    blubberfucker69 · 1 day ago My malicious compliance would be not to tell him if I went into labor or had the baby until he got back from his trip and when he gets mad I would say-
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    "You made it clear where your priorities lie, and since time with your real family was so much more important than me and your unborn child I didn't want to interrupt it by bothering you with something that clearly means nothing to you." Am I petty? Yes.
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    Am I absolutely enraged for you? Also yes. He's leaving his heavily pregnant fiancée to fly states away for a trip he takes EVERY YEAR FOR CHRISTMAS because mommy and daddy want him there? Ummm...WHAT?!
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    I'm not the type to jump on the divorce/breakup bandwagon like so many people are here on Reddit but holy the the disrespect has me LIVID.
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    I'm sorry if my fiancée left me like that, let alone under these circumstances I would fight him, his mom, his siblings, his cousins, his uncles, his grandma, his third grade teacher, his dentist, his boss, AND his optometrist because there's no way her fiancée is that blind and still allowed to be a part of society without a seeing eye dog.
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    And then men wonder why women don't wanna get married or date anymore. 4 2.5k Reply Share

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